Death and a happy ending

Getting to see her one last time meant the world to me.

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Death and a happy ending

This is a local story, although it could take place in Vancouver, Victoria or Toronto.

Just over a year ago, we had to place our mother in a home. Due to the COVID, came a complete lockdown of senior homes. Many people were not permitted to see their loved ones before they passed. Many hearts were broken.

I think we would all agree, no one should die alone.

During the past summer, came a partial lifting of restrictions, allowing one family member to make visits. Being the second child, my older sister got to do the visits.

Months rolled on and after not seeing my mother for 10 months, I was told I could come and visit, as it didn’t look like she was going to last too much longer.

As I was driving to the home the next morning, I was praying my mother would hang on until I got there. So many stories of “not quite making it in time” going through my head. I had arrived in time and to my surprise she was awake. Though not able to speak anymore, we were able to communicate through nodding and the occassional smile. We had a wonderful two-hour visit with me showing her many pictures of her life story I had downloaded on my iPad.

As I held her hand the two hours flew past quickly. I told her it was time for me to go and that she should also go, as there were many loved ones waiting for her.

I felt a huge relief as I walked out the door. Getting to see her one last time meant the world to me. She died 10 minutes later.

I’d like to thank the staff at Wexford Creek senior’s home in Nanaimo for all the care they’ve provided mom over the past year, and for letting me see her one last time. Go see your loved ones before they pass. I’m sure it will make them feel better and I know it will make you feel better.

Ted Puska Sr.

Ladysmith.

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